As acclaimed psychoanalyst Darian Leader argues, with his trademark clarity, energy and wit, sex is always about so much more than itself – it’s about phantasy, anxiety, guilt, revenge, violence, love. Drawing on his long analytic experience, historical research and case studies to explore their importance to every aspect of our sexual lives, Leader brilliantly reveals what we are really thinking about when we think about sex – and what we are really doing when we do it. 'A thoroughly engaging and ever-illuminating read' iNews'One of our most important contemporary thinkers' Guardian'Leader is as much a philosopher as a psychoanalyst and his ideas are engrossing and enlightening' Metro